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Choices and Actions


We all have a choice between widely separated alternatives. We can like ourselves or hate ourselves. We can lift ourselves up or put ourselves down. We can be for ourselves or against ourselves. Actions, attitudes and thinking determine the direction of our choices. - Easy Does It, Oct. 12

I like this quote a lot. It reminds me that I am not just a victim of circumstances; that I can decide what my life will be like. There was a time when I was more comfortable just wallowing in the complaints and negatives -- when it was easier just to take it all, and use it as an excuse for my behavior.

These days, though, I like having the understanding that there is a lot that is up to me. I can take the same lemons and make lemonade out of them, instead of complaining about their bitterness. I can make good out of the bad, or rather, I can see the good in every situation, instead of viewing it as "all bad."

Everything that happens in my life is there for a reason. Everything is there to challenge me to grow -- to develop, to learn, to help others. There is no "bad", per say, when I can recognize that my Higher Power put it there for me; for some reason, some purpose. I recognize that ultimately, He only has my good in mind -- my best in mind. What happens in my life is there in order to enhance my soul and achieve its purpose in this world. That's a far cry from kvetching and complaining, and just wallowing in the pity pot of "poor me."

So what can I do with all of this today? I can look at things differently, I can have a positive attitude (even an 'attitude of gratitude'), and I can choose the right path and good decisions and actions.

Just thinking this way gives me the "oomph" and the "push" to get going and get doing. Sounds like a plan -- a good one, in fact.

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Posted: Oct 22, 2009
Dear Frumstepper...
Well said.
If we know that Hashem created and rules over a blade of grass, a gentle breeze, a butterfly and G-d forbid tragic occurrences, we can release our challenges to Him and direct our path performing random acts of kindness. We can conquer the "What if's" and the "If only's" with emuna, (faith) in the One above, Ha Kodesh Baruchu. Sometimes we do not feel like being positive when challenges enter our lives, but even more so to not time travel in negativity and despair, instead thinking this too is all for the good.
As the Rebbe says: "Think Good. Do Good. It will be good." A cognitive behavioral therapist could not of said it better. We can have feelings, but the greatest gift we have is to know we have a choice in how we behave those feelings and to decide if those feelings have any business in certain situations anyway.
I am wishing you well on your life journey. Your attitude of gratitude and conscious choices will get you all of life's gifts.
Shabbat Shalom!
Dr. Amy
Posted By Dr. Amy Austin Psy.D., LMFT, Rancho Mirage, CA/USA



 


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